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Patience Through Silence

“But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.”

James 1:4

Do you get a charge of adrenaline through arguing?

When someone criticizes you, are you defending yourself for days on end, even if only in your own mind?  Do you spend inordinate amounts of energy attempting to prove critics wrong, saying, “I’ll show THEM!”

These thoughts and responses tend to consume a lot of mental, physical and spiritual energy.

It requires abundant patience fruit to step back from an argument or defending ourselves.  And sometimes we are left without a choice-certain issues and attacks can and should be met with a measured yet strong response.  However, as you are thinking about defending yourself or fighting back, make sure that you are not responding out of impatience-wanting to speed a matter to resolution or conclusion.

In other words, don’t be a hothead!

Showing your impatience or frustration weakens you in your relationship with the other person.  Impatience tends to build a wall between you and other people, whereas patience builds a bridge.

Think of the example of Christ before His accusers, which is foreshadowed for us in Isaiah 53:7

“He was oppressed, and He was afflicted, yet He opened not His mouth; He is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so He openeth not His mouth.”

If you are cultivating the fruit of patience, evaluate whether saying nothing is better than responding out of anger or frustration.  If you can have this demeanor when someone else is upset, you have the power to diffuse an otherwise explosive encounter.  Pray for wisdom to choose the response that demonstrates the most patience for the weakness, turmoil or confusion of another.

A great lady I know has a “go to” response when someone is saying something disagreeable, difficult or critical.  She smiles and says softly, “I understand.”  There is an element of humor in this response because you are not telling the other person exactly what you understand (i.e….they are horribly misguided).  But this response allows you to verbalize that you have heard and processed what they have said.

If you find impatience welling up when dealing with another person or difficult situation, take a moment to pause, pray and reflect and seek to return to patience.

“Return into thy rest, O my soul: for the Lord hath dealt bountifully with thee.”

Psalm 116:7

All the Best in 2013!


Peace Fruit

Patience With Promises


“But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.”

James 1:4

Maybe over the last few days, you have been concentrating on cultivating the fruit of “patience” in your spirit.   (I hope that you have!)

You’ve prayed, read scripture and been more conscious of your thoughts and responses.

But you are probably not at a point where you feel “perfect and entire” and want for “nothing.” 

Will you continue to cultivate patience even if you can’t detect a difference in your feelings or thoughts? 

You may be like me and experience impatience many times a day.  The cause of your impatience may be something as simple as an interruption during a workday or a traffic light that turns red too soon. 

You have made spiritual progress if you have recognized your impatience, said a quick prayer asking for God’s help and then consciously decided to NOT verbalize your impatience to those around you.

The adage that “misery loves company” is true.  If we complain about having to wait, we most certainly will find people who will validate our complaints and commiserate with us. This doesn’t mean that Christians should accept poor-quality customer service or abuse of their time, but it does mean that we think carefully about our actions when we feel impatience welling up.  This is especially important when the source of our impatience is a loved-one or someone we must work with often.

How many times have you needed a lesson repeated until you “got it?”  How did it impact your learning process if the teacher snapped at you or made you feel dumb? 

How patient has God been with you as He’s taught you?  So many times I have disappointed Him and knowingly done the opposite of what I knew He wanted.  Yet I was not struck down or banished from His presence or told to never come back.  He patiently repeats our lessons.

His teaching methods may intensify if we make the same mistakes over and over, but He never gives up on our ability to do better the next time or withholds the resources necessary for improvement.

Seek to demonstrate to others the patience which God has shown with you!

All the Best in 2013!

























Peace Fruit

Love: What It Is & Isn’t-Patient!


 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

1 Cor. 13:4-7

 Love Directly From the Owner’s Manual

God never tells us to do a thing without equipping us with thte tools needed to accomplish it.  We’re told to love God, ourselves, neighbors and enemies.  (I guess that’s everyone.).

Maybe you’ve gone through these last devotionals but still  wonder what love actually looks like.  Maybe you have experienced diffculties related to people who said they loved you letting you down.  Maybe you think you’ve fallen short in how you love others.

Well, in that familiar passage above that we hear so often at weddings, we are basically given what amounts to a “job description” for teh role of a loving person. And it also tells us pitfalls to avoid if we want to fit the description.

It makes sense that we spend the next few days reflecting on these “is’s” and “isn’ts.” (And, yes I know “is’s” and “isn’ts”  aren’t real words!)

On thing that you will note in looking at the verses on love, is they feature several of the other spiritual fruits such as patience and kindness. This highlights for us that love is foundational for all the other fruits.  Love is the “superfruit” of the spirit from which all the other fruits blossom.

The first descriptor of “love” is that it is patient.

Since we’ll be spending 40 days focused on this later on, we don’t need to dive extensively into it today.

I do want to start by asking a question that I am simultaneously asking myself!

If I am frequently impatient with someone close to me, does that mean I don’t love them enough?

Do I need to pray that God will help to love the person more, and through that enhanced love-the supernatural love of Christ that we have in us through the Holy Spirit can manifest more patience for the person?

That question kind of its me like a thud.

And reflect for a minute on how patient God is with YOU and ME?

Infinitely patient!

We are here.  Reading this.  Yet how many times have we probably disappointed ot grieved His spirit.  Yet we haven’t been zapped by lightning or exiled to hopelessness.  It’s because He loves us and wants us to succeed!

Love more and watch more patience naturally spring from it.

Report your results!  I want to hear from you!  Are you out there? Today’s the day to comment! 🙂  At least give me an “Amen!”

All the Best in 2013!


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